I grew up around men. I have both competed with them on the same team and against them. I have an equal number of male friends as well as female. I am a successful and very active woman. As I approached 50 years old, my body should have been preparing me for menopause. In fact I had gone 5 months without a menstrual cycle. 51 is the average age women go into menopause.
I go to a lot of events, seminars, workshops, some of which I am in charge of. I would get the occasional man who seek conquest for the sake of conquest or because I take the time to share a conversation with them. I have worked hard for many years to build my reputation of integrity. I don’t do friends with benefits or casual encounters like many people do. Fortunately, there was not that many advances and they were easy to deal with.
My time of the month kicked in again after five months, meaning that I was cheated out of menopause and fully functional as a childbearing woman. I noticed a marked change in men. I attended one convention and six men made overt passes at me and half of them tried even more than one time. I went to sit in the hotel lobby late in the evening to read and had 5 young men sitting around me, seemingly waiting for something to happen. When I got up to leave, they were like confused sugar ants who had their food taken away. I attended a convention in another country and had 3 men make passes at me. A hotel manager who rode in the elevator with me who looked to be about 35 years old looked at me and told me I looked hot. I looked at him out of the corner of my eye. He told me it must be the hat I was wearing. I had encountered him earlier and he had asked me if I was taking a tour of the hotel.
Another strange encounter was during the after activities. I was sitting in the hotel seating area just outside of the hotel bar where several of the invited guests had gathered as well as convention attendees. One of the guests, an actor whom I had interviewed earlier in the day joined the group late. He sat about 20 feet from me. Someone gave him a guitar. The actor was playing jazz all night except for two songs that he changed to rock songs and sang, across the room, to me songs that had strongly suggestive themes, meanwhile a young man of 22 years was trying to share his drink with me.
At different convention, I had a scary encounter with a man whom I had spoken earlier with at a publisher. I went to shake his hand and thank him for the earlier conversation and tell him it was nice to meet him. He grabbed my arm and looked deep into my eyes hoping I would go to bed with him. Scared the heck out of me. He also had made a pass at me earlier and I turned him down.
Walking around the mall or the grocery store, I would have strangers come up to me and try to pick me up. The age range is 22 to 68 years old. Most of them younger men.
This is all weird because I was between 180 and 198 pounds. I went on an extreme diet later and lost 40 pounds. My friends that I told the tales to were envious. They wished that men would give them attention. One time I was speaking to a writer sitting at a table and a 22 year old came up to me and made an overt pass. When I old him for the second time in two days that I was not like that, he told me that he likes older ladies. He was drunk as well. The guy at the table with me just shook his head. Later he made a play for me as well. The attention was fun at the beginning. It is not fun after a while. It was getting scary.
I may have figured out what caused all of this. I have always been sensitive to chemicals. I have to be careful when I go to the dentist and prefer no medication if possible. I get migraines from being around people with perfumes or walking through a group of smokers on the way into a store or restaurant.
I have sons who, with their friends were at the time 15-18 years old and I was approaching 50. They would have boys over constantly and sometimes there would be as many as 10 at a time. The enormous amounts of testosterone in the air which bothered me. I found I would have to go to a movie, out to eat, go to my room early or go for a walk. While I have no interest in young men, the testosterone in the air had an unexpected effect. Not only did it prevent my body from going into menopause, remember I had no cycle for 5 months, I believe it threw my body into heat. Not just any heat, but like a super strong version of it. No wonder the men at the conventions were so affected. Elevators and closed spaces were the worst.
After I figured out that heat was the problem, the men acting like romeos made sense. I am a public person as well as a businessperson. The pheromones were hindering my work and my ability to form new friendships. The one thing I can say for the conventions was that I did not have to see these people ever again. The downside is scary and I avoided going out after dark.
Sadly the pheromones had gotten to some of my male friends and one friend that I had for 10 years put his hand on my knee and I haven’t spoken to him sense. Once that bond of trust is broken that makes you friends in the first place, it is gone forever.
All I can say is that the conditions that lead to menopause can be very strange. I still have not hit menopause, however, at least the heat problem has nearly disappeared.